Mature Singles Online

Who Is “The Love Doctor”?

Michael Stanford — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 19:55:57 +0000

She is fondly known far and wide as “The love doctor”- and she sure has earned herself that name. This fascinating lady is Dr. Terri Orbuch. Are you a senior citizen on the lookout for love? Do you desire to be in a relationship that will make you feel alive and complete? Read on.

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If you are a senior single and ready to begin dating again, it can seem a little scary and intimidating. Perhaps you are one of those who has been single for some time and never tried online dating before and now feel the need for a good companion; perhaps you have tried your hand at online dating in the past and have not been successful. You may have ended up with the wrong person in the past but things just did not work out and you are apprehensive about how to go about it now. Do you feel you are too old to get into a relationship and yet feel that it is what you need? Whatever your doubts or apprehensions, Dr. Terri Orbuch, otherwise known as ‘the love doctor” can provide you the best advice that you could possibly ask for and clear all your worries regarding relationships and dating when you are in the evening of your life.

What makes the “love doctor” an authoritative figure on dating? We have seen several people dish out advice on love and relationships, so what has the “love doctor” got that the others who offer advice miss out on?

Over the last 20 years, Dr. Terri Orbuch – the ‘love doctor’- has studied the relationship, dating, marriage and divorce patterns of over 1000 individuals and families. Her credentials include being a Ph.D., M.A. and B.A. in sociology and psychology. She also happens to be the director of a project that has been funded by the National Institute of Health. This project is known as the “Early years of Marriage.” She is also a professor of sociology at the Oakland University. The “love doctor” is a family and marriage therapist and also the leader of a marriage enrichment workshop. She was, in the recent past, the president of the International Association for Relationship Research.

Dr. Terri Orbuch is also the author of five books on relationships. She has published numerous articles on marriage and divorce, relationships, sexuality, love and parent-child relationships. She has made presentations at conferences at the national and international level. She also hosts a radio show that is aired nationwide.

With all the above credentials backing her, and the vast bank of knowledge that she has gathered over the past two decades, it is no wonder that she is now the most sort after authority on marriage, relationships, dating and divorce.

It is somewhat natural to feel intimated by the word “dating” when you are a senior single. Looking for someone at this time in your life can be challenging. Dating sites do their best to find you that “special” someone whom you can share your life with, but if you still wonder if you are doing the right thing, you are not alone. It is but natural to feel apprehensive.

Dr. Terri Orbuch is involved with the website www.seniorpeoplemeet.com as a relationship consultant, where she puts her extensive experience and expertise to use helping senior people meet their ideal match online. Check out the website specifically designed to help you meet other senior singles HERE.

Safe Online Dating

Michael Stanford — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 02:15:17 +0000

Due to the increased popularity of social networking sites and the worldwide acceptance of the internet as an effective tool for communication, it is not surprising to see the increase in the number of people who are willing to try online dating sites. Online dating sites have the ability to connect you with thousands of people from the comfort of your own home and increases the possibility of a person connecting with someone who has the same beliefs and principles in life no matter how weird it may seem to be.

However, there is also a much greater risk of being scammed than there ever has been. There are problems that can be encountered specific to when joining online dating sites, as you are allowing access to your private information to a large number of people, some of which may be scammers and thieves. These unscrupulous sorts want to know where you are and how to take advantage of you. In order to be safe when dating online, you need to follow certain rules:

Profiles and Pictures
Don’t believe everything that you see (or read) as absolute fact. As humans, we have a tendency to distort the truth to our own advantage, whether it just be slight exagerations of the truth, or outright lying to gain advantage. Remember that it is extremely easy for someone to upload a profile picture that is fake and to try to get involved in a false relationship with a person. Their online dating profiles are set to catch people who are the most likely to be willing to provide them money and not love. Many scammers will wait until they feel they have gained trust from a person online and then ask for a certain amount of money, stating that they need it for medical expenses or some other type of necessity. Unless you are sure that you are dealing with an honest individual who will return your affection and who agrees to meet you up some time later, do not fall for this trick.

Site Reputation
Another big rule when it comes to safe online dating is to be involved only with reliable sites like eharmony, Okcupid, maturesinglesonly and seniorpeoplemeet. These websites have been developed to protect the interests of their members. Don’t simply join any online dating site that does not have a good reputation and history of when they have started – as well as those that have no certain rules and regulations to protect the user.

Open Communication
Is the person contacting you open to other forms of communication with you? Scammers are often very lazy when it comes to contacting prospective members, and will stick to quick and easy forms of communication such as email (which can be used over and over again, with only minor changes to the format for each person they contact) or other online tools provided by the site that make it quick and easy to make contact. If someone has taken the time to read your profile and comment on certain aspects of your personality, likes, dislikes etc. they are more likely to be legitimately interested in you.

Hold Off On The Details
Do not provide personal information immediately. Don’t show your address on your profile and certainly do not declare the amount of your salary. As much as possible, take the time to get to know more information about them before meeting up and if you do decide to meet them, make sure to meet on neutral territory where there are lots of people. Avoid posting any valuable information like your phone number because this can lead to stalking and other forms of harassment offline.

Pen Names
Sometimes it is best (if the site allows it) to create a username that isn’t related to your real name. Some great options are words that describe your personality or interests, and can often be more engaging and memorable to prospective partners as well. “FunLovingDogOwner” or “BeachWalkingBookReader” are some simple examples of this. Moreover, it would also be best to set up another email account. You can very easily use services like Hotmail, Google Mail or Yahoo Mail for this purpose. This way you don’t fill your regular inbox with more information than you can handle, and you can keep healthy separation between your regular life and your online dating. Make sure to converse with the person for at least a month before deciding to meet them. The longer your communication online before meeting or taking things further, the more you will get to know them, and the less likelihood that they are someone out for money.

Involve Others
Let someone else close to you know what you are doing in respect to your online dating activity, and ask if they can help provide an objective opinion with the people you are meeting online. Sometimes it is easy to get wrapped up in a whirlwind romance online and it quickly becomes difficult to be objective, especially if you are being complimented on your looks and personality every time you are conversing. Someone close to you will be able to see through any false talk and interpret their true intentions quite accurately, as they will truely care about your wellbeing and whether you will have your feelings hurt, or even worse. Always tell family members or if you are planning on meeting someone and tell them where you are going and when you intend to be back.

Am I Too Old To Start Dating Again?

Michael Stanford — Mon, 24 Oct 2011 09:47:07 +0000

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Relationships are all about the future. When you’re younger and you start a relationship, it feels as though anything can happen. You can have kids. You can buy a house. You can rob banks Bonnie and Clyde style before going out in a blaze of glory. The future feels like an unknown and limitless entity – something with an endless amount of potential and excitement.

But when you get older, the idea of “the future” tends to lose that excitement. You’ve already experienced a great life, and now you’ve grown into your routines and are less looking into the future, and are focused more on the here and now. It is for that reason that many older adults have given up on dating, seeing it only as an activity for the young.

There is No Wrong Time to Start Dating Again

You don’t need to be in the prime of your youth to look for love. There are so many reasons why finding love can happen at any time, and no matter your age you should continue to search for someone special in your life.

Someone Else is Looking

There is someone out there also looking for love, and that person may be the perfect partner to spend the rest of your life with. They have not given up, and if you decide not to seek out love because you’re concerned about your age, consider what you might be missing.

You Still Have Many Years Left

It doesn’t matter how old you are. What matters is that you still have a lot of time left. That time is more enjoyable when you have someone to share it with – someone whose company fills you with joy. Loving someone and spending time with them makes life more enjoyable, whether scaling mountain sides or making dinner together and watching a movie.

Happy Couples Live Longer

Finding someone to love is great for your health! Research has shown that those in happy relationships may add years to their lifespans. If you are concerned about dating at your age, remember that finding someone to love may keep you feeling younger for longer.

You Can’t Live in Your Past

It doesn’t matter if you’ve loved before. What matters is that you can love again. Those living in the past never have the opportunity to enjoy the future, and although you may have loved before – you may even have experienced heartbreak – your happiness doesn’t end just because you lost that love.

There’s No Age Limit On Happiness

If finding love makes you happy, then you deserve to find love. It doesn’t matter if you are 14 and just starting high school or long past retirement – your goal in life should always be to be happy, and dating is the first step towards that goal.

There’s No Time like the Present

If you’ve given up on love and find more joy being alone and cranky, then you may in fact be too old for love. But if you want to find someone special again – if you want to experience the happiness of being in a relationship – then there is no such thing as an age limit.

Matchmaking Services

Michael Stanford — Wed, 19 Oct 2011 19:48:02 +0000

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Dating may seem tough at times because we have a habit of going on dates with people with whom we have little or nothing in common. You may differ politically, have completely different interests, prefer a different type of humor – it’s not important what causes you to be incompatible. What matters is that you were not meant to be together, and the dates were unsuccessful.

Matchmaking services (both online and offline) are designed to reduce the number of “bad dates” and match you up with someone who pushes all the right buttons. These services, especially those online, have a great deal of potential as a way to help you meet someone special.

Benefits of Matchmaking Services

Avoiding Incompatibility

It’s not necessarily a matter of finding compatible matches. People are all unique, and even if you match 100% on paper, you may not be a perfect fit in real life. What this does is help you avoid those that clearly don’t match what you’re looking for. For example, if you’re seeking a vegetarian and you refuse to date meat eaters, it wouldn’t be very helpful if the website you signed up for sent you a bunch of meat eating matches. Matchmaking services look for ways to make sure that you are at least compatible on paper, if not more so.

Limiting Matches

Allowing thousands of people to contact thousands of other people with no discernible criteria is a recipe for disaster. You might receive emails from matches to whom you have no interest in talking. You might sift through hundreds of potential singles to find the one or two you want to contact. If the matchmaking service does some (or all) of this hard work in advance, the process is significantly easier.

Something to Talk About

When you’re matched with someone based on pre-determined criteria, you automatically have discussion topics for the first date. You’ll go into the date knowing that there is a reason you were matched together. If absolutely nothing else, you can investigate what brought you together and likely start a lively conversation in the process.

Comfort

There is something comforting about predetermined criteria. You know the person you’re going to meet or talk to has met the basic requirements you’ve laid out for a potential mate. You’re communicating with someone that, at least on paper, you are compatible with. That should allow you to relax and be yourself.

Are Matchmaking Services Perfect?

Matchmaking services evolve constantly. There’s no way to perfectly match the complexities of the average person with someone else. Expect to need a few dates before you find someone perfect, and don’t assume that just because you’re matched by the website or service you’ve hired that you’re a perfect fit. Even two people with identical interests may not get along.

While match making services are not 100% accurate, they offer a tremendous number of tools to meet someone special. These websites look at many criteria to find someone that seems to match with you. And, as these websites continue to evolve, their ability to match you with the perfect person only improves.

5 Types Of Online Dating Websites

Michael Stanford — Thu, 13 Oct 2011 04:46:45 +0000

Not even a few years ago, the idea of using an online dating website was a joke to most single adults. It was anathema to healthy, real world relationships – something computer nerds and basement dwellers used to find a mate. That stereotype has since dissipated as online dating has evolved and the busy lifestyles of most single adults made it necessary to find a faster, more efficient way to meet that special someone.

Online dating websites are constantly evolving, developing new ways for you to create lasting relationships. It is in the websites’ best interests to develop a system that introduces new couples effectively. So there are many types of dating sites out there, each of them offering its own special take on bringing men and women together. Here are five to consider in your search:

Online Dating Types

Basic Personals

The most basic online dating website allows singles to create a profile and browse other profiles looking for someone that catches their interest. Photos are usually included, as are some prompts to create a bio. While some basic personal ads utilize other types of technology (matching systems, etc.), the idea is fairly simple: browse all the local singles in your area and decide if you want to make contact.

Specialized Personals

In order to better match couples, some online dating sites target a specific group or niche, hoping to create more compatible matches. For example, there are online dating sites for seniors, dating sites based on income level, personals based on religion or ethnicity and so on. The expectation is that by focusing on a specific niche/genre, they can attract only those with mutual interests in finding a mate.

Matchmaking

Some websites have decided to try a more scientific approach. These websites take hundreds of questions and see how well you match to someone else that answers the same questions. Then they deliver you a list of matches (or set you up with a specific match, depending on the site) while excluding those that don’t fit.

Offline Dating

There are some online dating services that are, in many ways, event planners. Rather than set you up with a specific date, these websites organize entire events based on your mutual interests and hope that during those events you will communicate with potential matches and find someone that is right for you.

Hybrid Dating Sites

Many of these websites are also hybrids of the above dating sites. Several have matchmaking services integrated in their personals-style websites, showing you how well you match but not limiting you to emailing those that you match with. Many also schedule events that singles from the website can attend, but attendance isn’t mandatory to help find a match.

The Evolution of Online Dating

For an online dating website to succeed, it needs to successfully create happy, enduring relationships. To do this, these websites constantly evolve to provide new features and refine their matching tactics, hoping that they will someday offer the perfect technological solution to loneliness. Which is best for you depends on a number of factors – your comfort level, the approach you take in dating and the style of dates you hope to go on. Whatever your selection though, know that there is a site out there to match your needs.

Over 40 Dating Sites

Michael Stanford — Thu, 29 Sep 2011 19:08:11 +0000

There are many dating websites that are open to everyone. These websites allow anyone to contact anyone else and communicate with people with which they have zero in common. These websites are interesting, but a bit of a dead end if you want to meet someone interesting in your age range. When your goal is to find someone that’s right for you, you want a website used by people with similar interests at a similar stage of their life.

That’s why there are websites that are ideal for members of a specific group or niche. Some sites specialize in these groups, only allowing members to join if they fit the right criteria. Others are designed to help people find someone in their own age group with the same interests and ideals in life.

Using Dating Websites Over 40

Singles over 40 are very different from singles in their thirties or younger. By 40, many single men and women have either been married or enjoyed very long term relationships. They may have had kids or are settled into a career. They are at a very different place in life than those in their 20’s and 30’s.

That’s why it’s important to use a website that can match you with a partner in a similar stage of their life. In some cases this involves using a website that’s open to anyone, but has effective filtering criteria to find you a potential mate. For example:

eHarmony.com
Match.com
Chemistry.com

These websites are open to men and women of all ages, but they have filters and criteria that make it easy to find other singles over 40. They also have “matching” criteria that will connect you with potential partners based on the matching algorithms.

There are also specialty websites designed to match men and women over 40. These sites are niche websites, and are created specifically to match couples in a similar age range. Some of these websites include:

Over40andsingle.com
BabyBoomerPeopleMeet.com
MatureSinglesOnly.com

These websites may not have as many members as the major dating websites like eHarmony and Match.com, but they help connect you with people that are looking for someone in your age group. These aren’t people that joined a dating site to contact or view younger men and women.

Choosing a Dating Website for You

Mature dating is often difficult, and meeting someone online when you are dating over 40 even more so. It may be in your best interests to choose a website that has millions of members, and focus your search from there using eligibility criteria. It may also be preferable to join a specialized niche dating site and, while there may not be as many members, those that you do find will be serious about finding love within your age range.

Either way, it’s clear that there are plenty of resources out there. If you’re looking to start dating over 40, you have ample tools at your disposal, and it’s up to you to get started.

Over 50 Dating Sites

Michael Stanford — Sun, 25 Sep 2011 21:17:52 +0000

It’s easy to see how breaking into online dating over 50 might feel like a daunting task. Most dating websites appeal to the young, and those with more life experience often feel that the Internet or a particular dating site isn’t right for them.

Luckily, when you’re over 50 and looking for love, there are several options to help you connect with others in your age group.

Popular Dating Websites

While the best-known dating websites cater to the young, they have a variety of advantages for experienced daters. Their primary advantage is depth. They have millions of users, improving the likelihood that you’re matched with someone in your age group. They are also easy to navigate and offer attentive customer service. Most are equipped with matching features to ensure you connect with others in your ideal age range. Examples of these websites include:

eHarmony.com
Match.com
Plentyoffish.com

Specialized Dating Services

There are many dating websites that cater exclusively to mature daters. These websites don’t allow anyone under the age of 50 (or 65, depending on the website), with the intention of ensuring that you can find someone at the same stage of life.

Specialized over-50 dating websites have a lot of advantages. They are designed for those in that age group, and further specialize by experience and interests. But they also inherently filter out those not seriously looking for love. Few people sign up to these websites with false intentions, making them a great way for anyone over 50 to avoid time wasting surveys, cross-country messaging or meaningless flirting. Some examples of these websites include:

SeniorMatch.com
RealMatureSingles.com
50YearsPlus.com
PrimeSingles.com
SeniorFriendFinder.com
SeniorPeopleMeet.com
MatureSinglesOnly.com

There is one downside to using these websites over the more traditional sites like Match.com and eHarmony. Because these websites are less known, they may not have as many members with which you can be matched – especially outside of large cities. Also, these websites are less likely to use elegant matching systems with complex algorithms, forcing you to do more work narrowing down the field and finding the perfect mate.

Nevertheless, they do allow you to connect solely with others within your age range and with similar life experiences, and that makes them a great choice for the over 50 dating crowd.

Making the Move to Online Dating

It’s hard to meet other experienced daters in the “offline world.” While there are many mature singles, not all of them are looking to find a new love. That’s why using online dating sites for mature adults over the age of 50 is so effective. Anyone using one of these sites is looking for a lifelong partner, reducing the wasted efforts, meaningless dates, and awkward conversations about the future that tend to plague over-50 dating.

Online dating is no longer a taboo adventure. It is instead a fantastic way to meet mature local singles to date and start a relationship with. Joining any of the sites listed above is the first step towards finding a match in your life.

What Are Mature Singles Looking For In A Woman?

Michael Stanford — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 22:32:23 +0000

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Mature dating has many similarities to dating in your youth. You’re trying to find someone you are compatible with. You’re looking for someone who can be your best friend. You want someone that keeps you on your toes and makes every day enjoyable, whether you’re exploring the jungle on a safari or sitting at home and watching reruns of old sitcoms.

Dating is also about attracting a mate. Mature singles are looking for a woman that has the qualities they’re attracted to – someone that will make them happy. Some of these qualities include:

Positivity

Mature singles want to know that you are a positive and upbeat person. It’s hard to imagine spending your retirement with someone that is grouchy or pessimistic all of the time. This point in your life is about enjoying every day, and to do that you need someone that sees the present and the future through a colorful and upbeat lens. If you want to attract someone, you need to be optimistic about the future.

Passions

Potential partners want to know that you have passions in life. They want to see that you follow pursuits that keep you going every morning. It’s easy for mature daters to fall into the trap of routines, letting each day go to waste. Mature singles want to know that you still have things that drive you, and that you are still at a place in your life where there are activities that excite you.

Affection

Mature singles want to know that you can still be affectionate. The greatest part of a relationship is knowing that you are cared for by your partner. Show that you are an affectionate person, stealing kisses and holding hands whenever possible.

Vitality

As you age, there are certain aspects of your health that you can’t control. It may be nothing more than a few aching muscles or something a little more serious. Mature singles understand that growing older is growing older, and there may be the occasional health related blip that pops up along the way. But they also want to see that you care about your health, and you give the impression of vitality. They want to know that you are going to do whatever it takes to be with them as long as possible, just as they are going to do whatever it takes to be with you.

Becoming an Attractive Mate

Perhaps most importantly, potential partners want to see the real you, and know that you have a personality they will undoubtedly love. Now is not the time in life to pretend to be someone you are not. Now is the time to show your true colors, and let someone be attracted to the real you. By letting mature singles discover who you are – an attractive, energetic, upbeat and passionate mature woman – you can attract a partner that will try just as hard to make you happy.

What Are Mature Singles Looking For In A Man?

Michael Stanford — Thu, 15 Sep 2011 22:25:51 +0000

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While personalities change as you age, dating rituals do not. You still need to not only find a potential mate, but become an attractive partner – someone they can envision a real future with. You have to clean yourself up, dress nicely, and show that you have all of the following qualities that potential partners will find attractive in a mature mate.

The Qualities You Need As a Mature Male

Confidence

Mature women want a man confident in himself. They are attracted to someone who hasn’t let aging wear away his self-assuredness. They want to know that you’ll be there for them if times get hard, and that you’re still the passionate, slightly hard-headed man you’ve always been. Confidence is a vital feature when it comes to mature dating, because potential partners want to see that age hasn’t caused you to lose what makes you an attractive mate.

Adventure

Experienced men are notorious for falling too deeply into their routines. Your partner doesn’t want to be with someone that won’t leave the couch on any given day or refuses to go outside of their comfort zone. They want to be with someone that fills them with a sense of excitement and adventure. It’s not what you do that matters. It’s the energy and spontaneity with which you do it.

Love

Your partner wants to know that you’re going to be more than just a good friend. They want to know that you can and will experience love again, and that you’ll show them that love in the activities you do together. You need to be affectionate and open, and give them hope for the future. Your potential partners will look for clues that you want more than just basic companionship.

Stability

These are your prime years to relax and enjoy life. As a mature male, potential partners want to see that you are going to be a low stress individual with his ducks in a row. While they want someone who is passionate, they don’t want someone that’s always quick to aggression or overly argumentative. It should be a time in your life when you’re both ready to relax, and that is only possible if you appear to be a stable and secure individual.

Finding a Partner

As a mature male, you must show your potential partner that you are someone with whom they can enjoy their greatest years. This involves being confident in yourself, showing that you still have some vitality and energy left, and letting them know through thought, words, and action that you’re capable of loving once more.

There are millions of mature singles hoping to meet someone who can sweep them off their feet. Show them that you’re a stable, loving, and self-confident man and the dating process immediately becomes significantly easier. The joy of waking up beside your soul mate, a woman who you know will be there for you through the worst that life has to offer (and the best) is the greatest feeling you can imagine. Recapture that feeling and your life will take on new meaning.

Are You Ready For Senior Dating?

Michael Stanford — Sun, 04 Sep 2011 13:55:38 +0000

There’s no expiration date on love. You can date when you’re 40. You can date when you’re 50. You can date when you are 100 years old. It doesn’t matter how old you are. When it comes to senior dating, what matters is that you want to find someone special to start a relationship with.

Yet senior dating doesn’t come easy for everyone, and if it’s been decades since your last date, a little preparation goes a long way. Make sure that each of the following applies to you:

You want to find a partner that will also become your best friend.
You hope to find someone that shares similar interests – someone you’re comfortable with.
You know that it’s more important to find the right person than it is to find any person.
You are ready to be positive about the future.
You can imagine yourself loving someone deeply and know it is something you want.

One of the biggest challenges that affect senior dating is the idea of time. Most seniors look at the time they have left in terms of finite potential, believing that unless they find someone soon they will spend their remaining days alone.

But the reality is that it’s not the quantity of the days you have left. It’s the quality. It is more important to find someone you can love deeply 10 years from now than it is to find someone you don’t match with well just to have a partner. Every day with someone that isn’t right for you is a day not spent looking for the person who is.

To be truly ready for senior dating, you need to see dating for what it is: a chance to meet someone new in a fun setting and see where it goes. Be ready to enjoy yourself and not worry too much about the outcome of a single date.

Doing so will help you relax and stay positive. Dates are meant to be fun, and the two of you should be out there ready to enjoy yourselves. If you still think of dating as a means to an end –a chore you need to get out of the way so you can find someone to spend your days with, it may not be time to start dating yet.

There’s Someone Out There for You

If you’re not ready for senior dating, remember that someone special is out there, also looking for love. There is a senior single looking for someone like you to care about – someone to spend their days with, watching the world and living life.

If you’re worried about dating at this stage in your life, remember that there are others just like you. They’ve realized they deserve to be happy and are looking for a relationship with a great man or woman to fulfill that goal. The only way the two of you will ever meet is to take a leap into the great unknown and put yourself out there. You’ll be happy you did.

Senior Dating Do’s And Don’ts

Michael Stanford — Wed, 31 Aug 2011 22:54:20 +0000

It doesn’t matter how much experience you have in relationships – there’s always more to be learned. Dating as a senior has its own unique rules, so you need to make sure you adhere to these rules if you hope to create a successful relationship. For those seniors looking to start dating again, here are several dating rules you should follow:

Do’s

Take Things Slow – Your goal is to find someone that you will truly care about. Try to speed things up and you’ll push them away or get into a relationship with someone that isn’t right for you.
Enjoy Activities Together – You’re looking for your future partner in crime, and while it would be nice to have someone whose company you enjoy even while sitting on the couch all afternoon, you want to find someone you can share a lot of great experiences with.
Take Care of Your Health – When it comes to senior dating, you want your potential partner to know that you are going to be as healthy and active as possible, so that he/she can see a bright future with you.
Flirt! - You’re dating, after all, and dating is not just about finding someone you care about – it’s about having a little fun. Flirting shows that you’re still young at heart and helps you make every date more exciting.
Be Optimistic – You should be positive both in conversations with a potential partner and in your expectations of the future. No one wants to date someone filled with negative thoughts about themselves or the future of the relationship. Unless you remain positive, you’re going to scare away potential mates.

Don’ts

Grouchiness – You are trying to attract a partner and create romance just as you would when you were younger. Seniors have experienced so much of life that it’s easy to be cynical about the world, but try to open up and enjoy everything you experience. Show your potential partner why you’re such a catch.
Neediness – Neediness is a classic mistake in younger men and women. Treat your dates like they are just that – dates. They’re not marriages, and they’re not yet relationships. Worry about needing the other person when you’ve had a great time with them on several dates.
Nostalgia – You should talk about the fun things you did in your past and bond over shared experiences, but you shouldn’t talk about your past as though you’re still living in it. Potential partners want to see that you’re open to the great things you can do together in the future.

Senior dating is different from so called “traditional dating” because you have years of life experience that already shaped who you are and how you act around others. But dating is still dating, and it’s important that you treat each date with the knowledge that you still have many years ahead of you, and you’re looking to meet someone special to share them with.

7 Mature Dating Tips

Michael Stanford — Mon, 29 Aug 2011 04:41:17 +0000

Mature Dating Tips

Society is finally starting to embrace the idea of mature dating. Men and women are learning that it’s never too late to find love, and more and more mature men and women are starting to go out and enjoy dates with other mature singles. But for those that are only recently getting back into the dating world, starting a relationship as a mature adult feels very different than dating during youth. There is an inherent pressure in getting older and the awkwardness of starting to date again after a long hiatus.

Luckily, mature dating is not as difficult as it sounds as long as you follow several important tips that will help improve your success.

7 Dating Tips for Mature Singles

Relax – You’re still a great person, and you are going to someday attract someone that is right for you. But you also need to relax and have fun on your date. Dating is supposed to be a fun experience.
There is No Pressure – It’s important to remember that you are in no hurry, and not everyone you meet needs to be “the one.” It may take years and dozens of dates with other singles before you meet the right person, but when you do it will all be worthwhile.
Tell Stories – People like stories. They want the stories to be interesting or funny, but stories give your personality depth. Just make sure the stories are happy. No one likes a downer.
Laugh at Age – Both literally and figuratively. There are humorous aspects of being older, and laughing about it is a great way to break the tension and show that you’re relaxed. You should also not let your age get in the way of enjoying the activities you want to enjoy, and never use your age as a crutch to avoid engaging in dating activities you would have enjoyed in your youth.
Be Spontaneous – You can do dinner and a movie. Or you can sneak into the changing room at an Abercrombie and Fitch and make out like teenagers. You don’t have any obligation to conform to traditional mature dating clichés. You should be out there having fun.
Don’t Obsess Over Failure – Not every relationship was meant to succeed, and not every date needs to work out. There are going to be times that you find the person you’re out with isn’t right for you, just as there are times you will not be right for the other person. It’s all part of the dating process.
Talk – You can’t get to know someone without starting a conversation. Keep talking, ask questions, and make sure that you are learning about who they are as a person.

Far too often, mature singles want every day to succeed. They look at dating as though the results are indicative of their personality and character. Mature dating is still dating, and like all dating the goal is not to get married the next day. The goal is to see if you want a second date, and then a third date, and see where the relationship goes from there. Treat mature dating like you would dating at any age and you are bound to find the experience enjoyable.